Self esteem is a necessary evil.
We need to be wary that we see ourselves poorly when others reject us.
It’s amazing the connections we make with people who we never thought we would become friends with. Some folks surprise you when they want to be your pal. Those connections reveal the depth of our hearts and souls that we look past appearances into something greater. Friendships are a vital part of our world and we all need them. It is through our friendships that we learn more about ourselves. We need to be wary that we see ourselves poorly when others reject us though. Each of us are valuable people and its great when others see it and sometimes let us know that value. Connections are cool!
I have discovered that ones self esteem is a powerful thing that can build people up or make them tear others down. How one views themselves can inform others about who you are as a person. We have all gone through episodes of low self esteem, situational depression and doubting ourselves. We shouldn’t rely upon others to build us up but reassurance and encouragement can be a help to many.
People who suffer from low self esteem have been known to do things that have harmed others and it could be a cry for help.
There is a old saying you can’t love someone unless you love yourself and its true but some folks are in relationships where self esteem is a work in progress. The one lesson we can learn is to be good to ourselves and be good to others.
This is a great article on things to do to be yourself and to be the best you possible. Its a good list that reminds me that I need to be more positive when it comes to me.
When you look in the mirror what do you see? Perhaps the reflection is a person who is better than you think. I admit I am hard on myself and I don’t always like the person I look at in the mirror. When you look at yourself in the mirror, perhaps the person you see is someone who is better than you give your self credit for.
This morning in Church my pastor talked about how God sees us and its always better than we see ourselves. We are imperfect people, but we all have the promise to be better. Its all in how you see things. Your perception can be tainted by your life experience. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made so know you are special.
So as the example of the cat looking in the mirror and seeing a lion is something we can hold onto. We all can be like that. Have faith friends you are awesome!
Some folks are over-committed and over-scheduled. Asking for help and getting it is hard these days. Some folks don’t know when to say no and mean it. I am a person who says yes to a lot of people and then I have given myself away. There are situations where people have mad at me for not honoring my word.
When you give yourself to the core you have nothing left for yourself. Its good to be honest with yourself and others when you can’t do for others. Don’t be taken for granted or advantage of. Prioritizing who you help with those who are closest to you is a good rule of thumb.
Be good to yourself and then you can be good to others.
Don’t be so hard on yourself…for me that’s hard. I find that I am more critical of me than others. Self esteem is a big issue with me and sometimes it can be low. Words of affirmation work well with me.
OK folks, we have all said stupid stuff about things that in the grand scheme of things really don’t matter. On the flip side people have said and done things that haven’t been so nice to us. The old saying goes “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all” well its easier said than done.
Gossip is a dangerous thing and we all have done it. Spreading rumours can wreck reputations. Its fun to chat about people but often we do it when we don’t have all the info about them.
People will say something to you about your appearance and if you don’t have the best body image it can shatter your self esteem. Some people are highly sensitive to how they are viewed by others. Society tells us how we are supposed to dress and what beauty is and the words used to describe us can sometimes be unkind.
Friends we live in a world where kindness can be hard to come by. It’s sad that we find it easier to say derogatory things about someone than to find words to build someone else.
Of course we have that one person that drives us nuts, we love them but they drive us crazy. Compatibility is also an issue and we don’t always get along with one another. We all know people like these and we find ourselves talking about them out of frustration. The sad part about it is that we are more like the people that drive us nuts and some people we don’t always get along with.
I have done pretty much all of what I have described here. There’s nothing innocent about me here. I beg forgiveness. However there is always an opportunity to improve and learn to have more grace with people who have talked badly about me and to offer grace with people I have talked poorly about. Everyone is in this same boat so to speak.
Words are weapons, use them wisely.
I am resolved to give up being hard on myself for Lent. Believe it or not I am critical and too self deprecating. Having a better self image and self esteem will help me in so many ways. It also affirms that I am special to God who made me. So I am going to work on loving myself so I can love others better. This is my Lenten journey for 2013.