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Love and marriage should be extended to everyone, no matter orientation. This is no longer a strictly religious issue but a issue of fairness and family. I am a believer in Christ and a believer in love. In the 21st century we should have marriage equality. 

Distracted

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There are many things that distract us. Family concerns, job worries, technology, social media and more. I find myself distracted too much and its a problem in many areas of my life. God gave me two ears, two eyes and one nose so that I could be aware of things going on around me. Fortunately I have only one mouth so I can’t talk too much. I also have ten fingers which can type and that is another set ot troubles there.

The main thing is that we get distracted from relationships, driving, work by things that are bright and shiny and that is not good. It can have a bad impact on ones life. Personally I need to work harder on being less distracted.

More Rambling About Relationships

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I am not a relationship expert, but I have been in relationships. People can go from perfectly fine to perfectly toxic in any situation. Perhaps we should have some grace as it comes to people who are broken. Now there are some times you need to break free and that is OK. Remember to love extravagantly when you can but guard your heart in the process. 

Misunderstanding

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When I misunderstand please help me to understand. Its not good when misunderstandings ruin perfectly good friendships. So much drama has been caused by folks who just didn’t get what one was saying. Communication is something I struggle with.

I internalize things and at times I can take something the wrong way. God gave us two ears and one brain to listen twice as much. Perhaps if we took time to listen to people to hear what they have to say then the world could be a better place. 

Relationships

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Relationships are lovely, human, complex, necessary and strange. We need the company of others while we need to have our occasional solitude. We need to love and feel loved. Sometimes relationships define us but we also want our own identity. We have communal and individual ties that bind us. We seek romantic links with like minded souls. We are fearful of going it alone and will do whatever it takes to be with the one who we will love. Don’t worry, relationships will come, patience is a must.

Family

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I am very, very grateful to have two parents who have loved me and cared for me in my life. I am also very aware not everyone has been blessed in this way. My hope is that those who have had challenging relationships with ones parents that reconciliation is an option or they have have people in their lives who can act as “adopted” parents. Some families have strained relationships so there are times when you have to do something unconventional to have a family of ones choosing. Whether it be people from a house of worship or a group of friends in a cos play organization I hope everyone, has people they can rely upon.

Commentary on Relationships

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Everybody needs somebody, somebody like you so sings rock singer Bryan Adams. Relationships are a part of our human existence. There are dozens of songs, poems and the like about the subject. Our lives are made better by having people in them. However it can be tricky.

Author and pastor Rev. Shane Stanford has this interesting take on the subject of relationships that makes sense to me. We dread being alone so we make friends. We dread being hurt so we don’t make friends. We dread being betrayed, so we don’t let our real selves show. We dread loss so we choose not to love.

Rev. Stanford in this case is referring to how Jesus got to know us so well and got to the things we fear most. In this case its about relationships. In his Earthly life Jesus relied on the kindness of others because he didn’t have many material resources he called his own. In a way we all rely upon the kindness of others in our relationships.

You can tell how a relationship is going often times by reading someones blog post or Facebook status. Our relationships with others are a balancing act of give and take. Healthy relationships take a lot of work and requires some sacrifices and a lot of understanding. How we were raised in part can set the example of how we treat people. Bad relationships can either influence more bad relationships or perhaps turn it around and help people know how not to treat others.

We all want close friendships like you see on TV, you know the types where a group of people are very tight with each other. Also there are relationships that are fractured for one reason or another.

Your closest relationships will change over time. Life has a way of doing strange things that cause us to have to change ourselves. It’s very rare when you see a life-long friendship that has endured time and space. Our lives have us on the move more than ever and a friend today might be a memory tomorrow. Friends come for a reason and sometimes a season. Relationships come and go but being there in the moment is always a courageous thing to do. Your relationships can help form an individual as they go through life. Never be afraid to love, it is worth it. Life is too short to be lonely.