This Morning


Friends, this morning I woke up, got ready for work and then I got a call I had been anticipating and dreading at the same time. Today I not only lost my grandmother but a second mother who helped raise me. My heart is heavy, my soul aches but I know in my head she is in a better place but it still hurts, it will hurt for a long time. Now I am asking for prayers for my family as we grieve and say our farewell.




In life sometimes the only thing that truly matters is the people you love. Your family by birth or by choice are there to help give you identity and to sustain you and give you belonging. It’s those people that help you make lasting memories both good and bad. No matter what, be sure that you love those people and live together in a peace that knows no bounds. God, the universe, circumstances gave you those connections and community to enhance your life. Treasure the time you have together. Lord have mercy and thank you for giving me such people.

Saying Goodbye


I am in the process of saying goodbye to my grandmother who is in the final stage of Alzheimer’s. This process frankly sucks because its something I don’t want to have to do but it is something that is unavoidable. Barring a miracle from heaven, my grandmother will be joining the saints who went before her. There is some comfort there but you know it still means I will not see her anymore like I have for the last 45 years of my life. She means a lot to me and our family. However as believers in God we know we will see her again. Life has a beginning, a middle and an end. What we do with that life matters and what my grandmother did in her mattered to a lot of people. So, saying goodbye will be very hard but doing what is best for her is what I/we should be focused on.